Marrying your best friend is becoming our go-to marriage cliché. Like going to a wedding and hearing, “love is patient, love is kind… “
But to me, marrying your best friend simply means that you can do absolutely nothing with this person and have a freaking blast. A trip to Target to buy pants can feel like going to Disneyland – well, at least on a day that Splash Mountain is closed.
If you don’t enjoy going to the grocery store with this person to buy eggs or changing the clothes at the laundry mat, then you might not enjoy doing marriage. Because marriage is built on a million more mundane moments than magical.
Joy Eggerichs, the daughter to the author of the prized book Love and Respect, has a lot of teachings at her blog that have helped me out a lot in my relationship with Matthew in the beginning frays and sometimes even now. She answered so many questions I had about how to respect guy friends, unrealistic axpectations that Hollywood defines to us, and topics about The One. I do know that was something I battled with so much in the beginning because I was terrified of marrying the wrong "One." I thought maybe God wanted me to do the opposite of what I wanted to do because the opposite of what he wanted was actually MY will, which was sin. And I also lived in fear of choosing the wrong person because he may not be "the One" and I would jeprodize my future for forever after that.
I don't even believe in The One anymore except THE One (Jesus Christ) and I believe God wants to partner with us on the journey we choose so he can lead us in the way we should go. A lot of people can say, "No, God wants us to partner with him! And it's stupid to make a move until the cloud of glory thunders."
Um, no. I think you forgot we have a free will and God honors that too. People, we are the Bride of Christ who will rule and reign WITH HIM in the end of the age, not take orders from him on how to do things. God is a dad; he likes our input. For example, why would any dad take his kid to an ice cream shop and pick out EXACTLY what he wants for her instead of asking her input.
Choosing a spouse is really a fine line that I'm not ready to blast my opinions out about just yet. All I will say is I've discovered, humans have a free will and God likes our opinions. End point.
Um, no. I think you forgot we have a free will and God honors that too. People, we are the Bride of Christ who will rule and reign WITH HIM in the end of the age, not take orders from him on how to do things. God is a dad; he likes our input. For example, why would any dad take his kid to an ice cream shop and pick out EXACTLY what he wants for her instead of asking her input.
Choosing a spouse is really a fine line that I'm not ready to blast my opinions out about just yet. All I will say is I've discovered, humans have a free will and God likes our opinions. End point.
So, if you want to read more about what she has to say, visit her website! I like her wisdom.
Here's a link to the post from the quote I stole above.
She also makes some seriously entertaining videos. May I recomend, for us women, two from her youtube about fantasy, Hollywood AND even Christian novels that have affected our way of thinking on what the "ideal man" really is and the dangers of idealism and escapism.
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